‘Who’s to blame for this? Who should be blamed for that? People can be very quick sometimes to point fingers of blame – and often a bit too quick to point them elsewhere! You could get involved with a ‘who’s to blame’ discussion now, but would doing so be helpful or constructive? Avoid the tendency to rake over old ground. It’s where you and someone else go from here that matters.’

So funny reading this the day after a very heated argument with a X…